Coming home to find your elderly parent in decline can be a difficult and emotional experience. It can be a shock to see someone who has always been strong and independent suddenly struggling with basic tasks. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed and unsure of what to do, but there are steps you can take to help your parent and ensure they receive the care they need.
Stop and Assess the Situation
The first step is to assess the situation. Take note of your parent’s physical and mental state. Are they having difficulty walking, getting up from a chair, or performing other daily activities? Do they seem confused or disoriented? Are they experiencing any pain or discomfort? It’s important to be honest with yourself about what you’re seeing and to share your observations with your parent’s doctor.
Once you have a clear understanding of your parent’s condition, it’s time to take action. The first step is to ensure their safety. This may mean rearranging furniture or removing tripping hazards in the home. It may also mean installing handrails in the bathroom or bedroom to help your parent move around more easily.
Seek the Right Help
Next, it’s important to connect with your parent’s healthcare team. This may include their primary care physician, a geriatrician, or a specialist. Share your observations and concerns with the healthcare provider and ask for their recommendations. They may recommend medications or other treatments to manage your parent’s condition.
It’s also important to consider your parent’s emotional wellbeing. Seeing a decline in their abilities can be scary and disheartening for them. Be patient and understanding, and offer your support in any way you can. Encourage them to participate in activities they enjoy and to maintain their social connections.
Stay Calm and Breathe!
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure of what to do, consider reaching out to a professional caregiver or care manager. These professionals can help you navigate the healthcare system, coordinate care, and provide support and guidance.
Above all, remember that you’re not alone. Many families face the challenge of caring for aging parents, and there are resources available to help. Seek out support groups, community resources, and other caregivers who can offer advice and support. With the right care and support, your parent can continue to thrive and enjoy their golden years.
This dilemma plays out a lot during holiday get-togethers. The kids come home for what they thought would be a short visit – then encounter an emergency situation with their parents. In some cases, the parent had slowly declined over the past year and had reached a point where a care decision could no longer be delayed. Some decisions, however, to be made now and the kids knew that it had to be made quickly.
A Quick Decision
A quick decision was necessary because (1) Mom or Dad’s health required immediate action; (2) the kids had very little time to act; (3) they couldn’t just go back home without doing something.
Many of these kids did take some action such as doing family meetings, seeking immediate medical attention for their declining parent and taking actions to make homes safer.
But they knew they needed to do more and are still struggling with the question of what to do next. It is for this reason that we wrote Mom’s Christmas Shocker. This book discusses the very situation that we discussed herein, which is how to make a difficult decision such as discussed above in a very short period of time.
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Nothing herein is intended to be legal advice. These are just things that we have seen various families try when struggling with this difficult issue. Each situation is unique and requires specific professional assistance to resolve. Please contact your local medical or legal advisors to seek assistance in appropriately resolving this issue for your family.